The joys of autism – is it a concept that resonates with everyone? While some readily embrace it, others may question or overlook it. So, what is it that makes autism joyful? Through the lens of personal experience, this blog explores the beauty found within the world of autistic children and their unique perception.
The ‘Ah Ha’ Moments
In the realm of autism, growth is a constant companion, characterized by those precious “ah ha” moments. These are the moments when, in the depths of their eyes, you witness the realization of something profound. It’s a revelation that what they’ve just seen, heard, or understood is real. These moments are treasures to be cherished, and if only they could be captured entirely. If we could glimpse the world exactly as they do, we might be witnesses to a better place, both within and beyond ourselves.
The Path to Positivity
Maintaining a positive outlook in the face of autism wasn’t always a given. The initial diagnosis of autism for my eldest son was a devastating blow. It felt akin to being told you have a life-altering condition, with the only difference being that autism is a lifelong journey. But can it be cured? No, it’s not an ailment that needs curing. Can it be improved? Absolutely. Through understanding, therapy, and an abundance of love, autism can evolve into one of the most fulfilling aspects of life.
Consider my eldest, who is non-verbal and experiences severe autism. Non-verbal doesn’t mean devoid of communication. In his own way, he hums almost constantly, and there’s a spontaneous form of communication that only he seems to understand. It’s a puzzle I’d love to solve. He’ll dash down the hallway, saying things like “oh no” or burst into laughter as if he’s just remembered a hilarious joke. When he’s not in the mood for something or we’re attempting to hush him, he’ll insistently repeat “shhh.” Yes, his form of communication is distinct, and it doesn’t fit the traditional mold of conversation.
Recently, someone asked me, “How can you find joy in that?” The answer is simple. Picture yourself at your office desk, engrossed in work or play on your computer when suddenly, your son leaps up from his desk, exclaims “oh no,” and rushes down the hallway, laughing all the way. How can that not be joyful? Some might label it as an interruption or distraction, but I disagree. While I grew up in a world where “children should be seen and not heard,” I’ve come to realize that this perspective is flawed. I have four autistic children, and trying to stifle their voices would test even the most patient person. They have ideas, thoughts, and visions that they want to share. There’s nothing more important in life than encouraging a child to express themselves. Of course, there are times when they need to learn to moderate their enthusiasm, but for the most part, it’s more than alright. Yes, there is indeed joy in autism – joy in witnessing their growth and learning, joy in the smiles that grace their faces. As I’ve said before, we don’t live in our world; we live in theirs.
For those who believe that raising an autistic child could never bring joy, it might appear that way. You might find yourself collapsing onto your bed, exhausted after a long day of managing the challenges. But consider this – they don’t have to navigate the complexities of the world. Their stressors are different, and they don’t worry about appearances, attire, or societal norms. They merely live their lives.
As I’ve often shared with others, they cut through the red tape of life and revel in it through their unique perception. Reality, after all, is a matter of perspective, and their perspective is nothing short of extraordinary.